In recent months, there has been a resurgence on “war on women”. I’m not referring to the “war on women” that has been happening for centuries in the Middle East or the heinous atrocities happening to women in Africa or even the verbal attacks in the U.S. political arena. Instead, I’m referring to the age old war of working moms vs. stay at home moms and the other ugly battle, attachment parenting vs. traditional parenting. First, it was the ridiculous comments made by Hilary Rosen about Ann Romney. Then, there was an uproar in response to the Time magazine cover.
Why do we allow society or the media to flame these feuds?
If you work outside the home and still have the strength to raise a family, then you should be applauded. If your job is a full time mom trying to juggling it all without losing your mind or yourself trapped between a world of toddlerese and Lori Berkner, then your efforts should be applauded as well. Neither job is easy. Motherhood no matter how it’s dressed up, be it a corporate suit or yoga pants, requires sacrifice and that sacrifice should be praised not ridiculed.
And yet, somehow that sacrifice opens the door for ridicule or judgment rather than praise.
As moms, we make decisions every day about child-rearing with the sole purpose to do what’s best for our children. Therefore, how can any reasonable child-rearing choice be wrong? If you choose to breastfeed your child until school-age, who are we to judge? If you choose to bottle feed your baby over breastfeeding, who are we to judge? And if your child stays on the bottle, boob or binky until kindergarten, then that’s also a parenting choice and no one should judge.
No matter which avenue we choose to get there, we all want a stress-free existence with confident, well-adjusted children. Our ultimate goal is the same. So why not build a society that mirrors the one created when we cradle infants in our arms, be it on the breast or on a bottle?
Acceptance and support starts with each of us. As mothers, we need to stop criticizing each other and start supporting one another. We can’t allow magazine images and political sound bites to open the door to criticism and attacks.
Motherhood makes beautiful things. Society needs to stop turning into something ugly.
With yesterday being Mother’s Day, I felt compelled to share my thoughts about moms supporting other moms and what better way than incorporating it into a Music Monday post. What topics and tunes are moving you?
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