In recent months, there has been a resurgence on “war on women”. I’m not referring to the “war on women” that has been happening for centuries in the Middle East or the heinous atrocities happening to women in Africa or even the verbal attacks in the U.S. political arena. Instead, I’m referring to the age old war of working moms vs. stay at home moms and the other ugly battle, attachment parenting vs. traditional parenting. First, it was the ridiculous comments made by Hilary Rosen about Ann Romney. Then, there was an uproar in response to the Time magazine cover.
Why do we allow society or the media to flame these feuds?
If you work outside the home and still have the strength to raise a family, then you should be applauded. If your job is a full time mom trying to juggling it all without losing your mind or yourself trapped between a world of toddlerese and Lori Berkner, then your efforts should be applauded as well. Neither job is easy. Motherhood no matter how it’s dressed up, be it a corporate suit or yoga pants, requires sacrifice and that sacrifice should be praised not ridiculed.
And yet, somehow that sacrifice opens the door for ridicule or judgment rather than praise.
As moms, we make decisions every day about child-rearing with the sole purpose to do what’s best for our children. Therefore, how can any reasonable child-rearing choice be wrong? If you choose to breastfeed your child until school-age, who are we to judge? If you choose to bottle feed your baby over breastfeeding, who are we to judge? And if your child stays on the bottle, boob or binky until kindergarten, then that’s also a parenting choice and no one should judge.
No matter which avenue we choose to get there, we all want a stress-free existence with confident, well-adjusted children. Our ultimate goal is the same. So why not build a society that mirrors the one created when we cradle infants in our arms, be it on the breast or on a bottle?
Acceptance and support starts with each of us. As mothers, we need to stop criticizing each other and start supporting one another. We can’t allow magazine images and political sound bites to open the door to criticism and attacks.
Motherhood makes beautiful things. Society needs to stop turning into something ugly.
With yesterday being Mother’s Day, I felt compelled to share my thoughts about moms supporting other moms and what better way than incorporating it into a Music Monday post. What topics and tunes are moving you?
I’m still co-hosting with Xmas Dolly and her Monday’s Music Moves Me crew (Lorie, Stacy, Callie and Cathy), so link up and share.
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Yes it does, and it goes so fast that I can’t see myself already at the age I am. It’s just fabulous times and we have to try to enjoy it as much as we can even though it is a lot of work. Happy Mother’s Day!
As far as your post I agree with you about the media, but as far as the topic I’m gonna plead the fifth on that one. Seems like lately I open my mouth and I insert my foot soooooooooooooooooooooooo with that being said cool song. New to me, but I does likes it and you… yes that’s what I said U… goodness you’re just always running. Pardon the pun, but YOU GO GIRL!!!! Love that you run for causes too! I really admire you for that. I’m sorry about your week. I too lost a child to S.I.D.S. so my heart goes out to your friend, and I lost my Dad to lung cancer at the very young age of 57. hugssssssss and keep on truckin’…..
Honestly, I couldn’t agree more with you on what you say about motherhood. Everyone has their opinions, beliefs and choices and who are we to judge those? Motherhood as a whole is a beautiful, natural, miracle and we should all view it that way instead of fighting amongst each other.
I LOVE your song choice-I’m definitely putting it on my iPod! 🙂
Have a musical week!
I couldn’t agree with what you said about motherhood more-It’s a beautiful, natural, miracle that each and every one of us experience differently, so why judge each other? It’s something to support and share and encourage rather than judge and ridicule.
I absolutely LOVE the song you chose today-I’m definitely big on meaningful lyrics and this is a deep, meaningful song 🙂
Have a musical week!
Very good post on the topic/s.
We should support each other more and if a mother needs help, then share, dont ridicule.
But we are fallen and always there will be strike.
I love your song choice too!
Love your song choice.
Yes! This Mommy War nonsense is beyond ridiculous – hopped up crazypants stuff designed to sell magazines and air time. Real moms work together because we know how much we all need the support.
I couldn’t agree more with you….parenting is hard enough, and it would be so wonderful if we weren’t constantly feeling judged on every decision and choice we make as parents. I realize that everyone is allowed to voice their own opinions, but maybe we could all find a way to do it while supporting each other instead of criticizing. Very beautiful song choice, gave me goosebumps! – I will most definitely be looking them up. (PS found you through SITS!)
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